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Match these Danger Remarks™ - exclusive to MsagroPro™.

These all were said by my toxic Mother - "Doddy".

If there are repeats of many of these, you should go no contact or low contact.
No contact may not be possible; such as in the workplace.

Remember: Superior judgment trumps superior skills. See you here.

Treat the other person the way they need to be treated in this case.

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1. Emotional Appeals 2. Bandwagon 3. Black-and-white 4. Burden of Proof

5. False Flattery 6. Incredulity 7. Labeling 8. False Compromise

9. Empty Promises 10. Quoting out of Context 11. Ridicule 12. Slippery Slope

13. Dehumanizing 14. Slogans

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1.Emotional Appeals: Attempting to play on emotions such as fear, guilt and loyalty rather than using logic and reasoning.

☈ "After everything that I have done for you."

☈ "How dare you question me!"

☈ "You’re always attacking me."

☈ "You’ll regret it if you ever cross me."

☈ "I guess that I'm just a terrible person."

☈ "You're the problem; not me."

☈ "Why can't you just let it go?"

☈ "After all the money I spent on sending you to Melbourne Grammar!"

☈ "Let’s not talk about me."

2. Bandwagon: An attempt to pressure another to go along because everybody is doing it.

☈ "So-and-so thinks I’m right. You should listen to them."

☈ "Why can't you be more like them?"

☈ "You're just like everyone else."

☈ "So-and-so thinks I’m amazing."

3. Black-and-white / Either-or posturing: Pretending there are only two choices when there are several.

☈ "You're either with me or against me."

☈ "I’ll only love you if you do what I want."

4. Burden of Proof: Asserting that the speaker does not need to prove their points but the burden is on the listener to disprove them.

☈ "I know that I am right. What I say stands until you can prove otherwise."

☈ "You don't know what you are talking about."

5. False Flattery: Buttering others up to make them more receptive to their argument.

☈ "I couldn't possibly be manipulating you, you're way too smart for that."

☈ "I'm only saying this for your own good."

☈ "You’re the only one I can rely on. I don’t know what I’d do without you."

☈ "I’m the only one who understands you."

6. Incredulity: Acting as though what someone said is unbelievable.

☈ "You seriously think there are other husbands who are better than me?"

☈ "You really think other wives get anywhere near what I have given you?"

☈ "You are not living in the real world."

☈ "You're twisting my words."

☈ "I was just joking."

☈ "You cannot take a joke."

☈ "I never said that."

☈ "I don't know what you are talking about."

☈ "You misunderstood me."

☈ "I never asked you to do that."

☈ "That's not what I meant."

☈ "You always make me look the bad guy."

☈ "I cannot imagine that you would think that of me."

☈ "You are making things up."

☈ "You're so ungrateful."

☈ "You do not care about me."

☈ "You don't understand me."

☈ "You’re being irrational."

☈ "You’re worthless."

☈ "You’re blowing all this out of proportion."

7. Labeling: Applying a negative phrase or attributing negative characteristics to a person or position.

☈ "You're too needy."

☈ "You're a loser"

☈ "You're too sensitive."

☈ "You're imagining things."

☈ "You're over reacting."

☈ "You always twist things."

☈ "You're too dramatic."

☈ "You're just insecure."

☈ "You're too emotional."

☈ "You imagine problems that are not there."

☈ "You never listen to me."

☈ "Why can't you just be happy?"

☈ "It’s your fault I’m like this."

☈ "This is all your fault."

☈ "You’re always trying to control me. You’re the one who is controlling."

☈ "You’re the one who needs to work on yourself."

8. False Compromise: Offering to meet half way on matters in which there is clearly a fair and unfair choice.

☈ "Okay, you win, I will pay you back $50 of the $100 you gave me and we will call it even. Hey, its better than nothing."

9. Empty Promises: Promising to give you what you want without any plan or intention of fulfilling the promise.

☈ "You'll get your turn. I promise."

☈ "I was only trying to help."

☈ "You have to earn my affection."

10. Quoting out of Context: Repeating only part of what another person said or using another person's words completely out of context.

☈ "You always said people have to take responsibility for themselves so I didn't think you needed my help when you had to go to the boss."

☈ "I didn't mean it like that."

11. Ridicule: Mocking or humiliating another person or their requests or their feelings.

☈ "That is the dumbest thing that I’ve ever heard. You're just embarrassing yourself."

☈ "No-one else would put up with you."

☈ "Nobody else thinks that."

☈ "You are taking it the wrong way."

☈ "You're lucky that I stay with you."

☈ "Why are you making such a big deal out of this?"

☈ "No-one else has a problem with me."

☈ "Why do you always overthink everything?"

☈ "You made me do this."

☈ "No one else would ever want you."

12. Slippery Slope: An appeal to fear which takes a small problem and predicts that it will lead to an escalating series of worst-case scenarios.

☈ "If I do this for you, you will think you can get whatever you want from me. I will become your slave and have no life."

☈ "If you leave, I’ll ruin your life and you’ll regret it. I have ways of making your life miserable."

☈ "They don’t really care about you like I do."

☈ "Remember that time you told me your deepest secrets? Maybe I should share them with everyone."

13. Dehumanizing: Classifying others as inferior, dangerous or evil to justify oppressing or eliminating them.

☈ "They're bringing drugs."

☈ "They're bringing crime."

☈ "They're rapists."

14. Slogans: A simplistic phrase that is a catch-all designed to shut down dissent.

☈ "Believe me. I'm your last and best hope. I'm all that you have got."

☈ "You're lucky that I stay with you."

☈ "You're lucky that I'm still here."

☈ "Everyone else gets me; why not you?"

☈ "You are making me look bad."

☈ "If you really loved me....."

☈ "I never meant to hurt you."

☈ "If you hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have reacted this way."

☈ "I can never do anything right."