Treat by Pattern - Specific Treatment - Q4 KEVIN™
This page details specific items to watch out for.
Use these to tailor your approach as you know the other person's behaviour pattern.
This page is for - Q4 KEVIN™.
Remember: Superior judgment trumps superior skills. See you here.
Treat the other person the way they want to be treated.
Pattern 13 - Practitioner - ISFJ
Nick Off Nickname™: The Impotent Simpleton.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Codependent, needy and suffocating.
While Virtue is Faith; Nota Bene: Vice is Fear.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "I stalk from a distance and keep information saved for blackmail in the future."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The basic people pleasing grandma with control issues. A pushover but who has rigid views. The useless.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Can be very flattering as they enjoy making others feel good about themselves. De: Appeases by compromise or yielding to avoid conflict.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they are well mannered and rarely rude.
Character: Passive-aggressive. Sooooo family focused. Rusted on to the past. Holds grudges. Boring. Grandma driver.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to find joy in altruism.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Your cookies are ordinary, at best".
At the airport, I have overpacked everything.
Dramatic Narrative™: Quiet, friendly, responsible and conscientious. Committed and steady in meeting their obligations. Thorough, painstaking and accurate. Loyal, considerate, notices and remembers specifics about people who are important to them. Concerned with how others feel. Strives to create an orderly and harmonious environment at work and at home.
Never do this - we know: They rehearse small talk in their heads before walking into the grocery store, just in case they run into someone they sort of know. Never blindside them or put them in the spotlight in front of a crowd. They want to be helpful, thoughtful, composed but being caught off-guard strips away their script and suddenly they are internally freaking out. Worse still? When they do decide to open up and share something genuine - some soft, earnest feeling that cost them five hours of overthinking - and you cut them off mid-sentence. You have imposed the shame hurricane. Remember, they are your local guy who is feeble and as weak as water - the passive-aggressive martyr.
Pattern 14 - Objective Thinker - ISTJ
Nick Off Nickname™: The Rule Following Bore.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Inflexible, rigid and dogmatic.
While Virtue is Objevtivity; Nota Bene: Vice is Triviality.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "I use awkward and shallow talk through life, not having anything else to say; especially to strangers."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The stubborn, boring and straight-laced one; probably an accountant. No personality. The reliable.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Does not like feeling forced to flatter someone for whom they do not sincerely want to do this. De: Uses conflict rather than being subservient.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they are a bit too logical.
Character: Pedantic. Duty fulfiller. No sudden changes. Grandma driver.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to be careful yet confident.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Stop hitting people with rulers and stop yelling like a drill sergeant".
At the airport, I have bought duty free that I do not need as I have done the maths.
Dramatic Narrative™: Quiet, serious and earns success by being thorough and dependable. Practical, matter-of-fact, realistic and responsible. Decides logically what should be done and works toward it steadily, regardless of distractions. Takes pleasure in making everything orderly and organized - their work, their home, their life. Values traditions and loyalty.
Never do this - we know: They loathe more than anything than being asked to wing it. They function at their best on preparedness. On structure. On being able to consult the manual; preferably one they wrote themselves after editing the original for efficiency. But when life throws curveballs like a surprise party or a spontaneous emotional gift, their brain short-circuits. Not because they are ungrateful, but because now everyone is staring at them, waiting for the emotional fireworks. Do not do that. Remember, they are your local reliable guy - the thought police.
Pattern 15 - Perfectionist - INTP
Nick Off Nickname™: The Pedantic Academic.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Cynical, arrogant and pessimistic.
While Virtue is Attentiveness; Nota Bene: Vice is Apathy.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "Why must you be so dumb? I asked you one simple question and you gave me an answer so irrelevant that I cannot even comprehend how wrong you are. Now, let me elaborate how correct I am in my own words. These words are unlikely to make any sense to people like you."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The tactless and aloof nerd who picks issues on trivial things. Socially awkward and cannot use kitchen appliances. The absent minded professor.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Are not usually flatterers as to come up with the right words is not their greatest strength. De: Less outwardly conforming but not necessarily dismissive.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude when they push and overshare.
Character: Pretentious. Does not finish. Socially awkward. The ultra researched customer from hell. Either thinks random thoughts instead of concentrating on the road ahead or is prone to road rage.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to be skeptical and why.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Just staring at clouds will not pay the rent".
At the airport, I am not sure whether this trip is for business but it's definitely not for pleasure.
Dramatic Narrative™: Seeks to develop logical explanations for everything that interests them. Theoretical and abstract and is interested more in ideas than in social interaction. Quiet, contained, flexible and adaptable. Has unusual ability to focus in depth to solve problems in their area of interest. Skeptical, sometimes critical but always analytical.
Never do this - we know: They can seem like the emotional equivalent of a locked filing cabinet inside a bunker guarded by a polite but distant robot. Recognise that when they suddenly find themselves feeling things, especially in public, it will be like watching a cat try to pretend it meant to fall off the counter. They are not heartless and not robots even if that is their stereotype. They feel things deeply. However they are just not sure what those things are and want to keep it that way. Never make them show emotion publicly. Never, ever, make them comfort someone mid-breakdown. Be aware that they may gain emotional intelligence and comfort with feelings as they age and mature. Remember, they are your local nerd - the impractical egghead.
Pattern 16 - Enhancer - INTJ
Nick Off Nickname™: The Coldest Rascal.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Cold, calculating and insensitive.
While Virtue is Trust; Nota Bene: Vice is Paranoia.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "I sneakily can run away from trouble and put the blame on someone else if necessary, no matter whether friend or foe, while you will never find out how I did it."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The intolerant arthropod with an exoskeleton and a very soft centre. An asshole. The one to turn to.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Doees not usually like having to use flattery as it just feels entirely unnatural. De: Uses conflict rather than being subservient.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they are correct and are certain about it.
Character: Dismissive. Could not care if you dislike them. Strategy light years ahead of yours. Either has road rage or is the back seat driver.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to look ahead.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Being bossy and angry 24/7 does not, in itself, make you seem intimidating; it just makes you seem like a dictator".
At the airport, I cannot fathom who is the idiot who made getting to the gate so complex.
Dramatic Narrative™: Has original mind and a great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly sees patterns in external events and develops long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organizes a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent. Has high standards of competence and performance bith for themselves and for others.
Never do this - we know: They are Mr. Strategy and you should know that. Never ambush them with spontaneity such as an impromptu speech or engage in useless small talk They will unravel in real-time. Never publicly gush over them - "the brains of the operation" in front of a crowd. Even though that is likely to be the case. Never plan a surprise party with matching hats and a group sing-along. They will thank you politely, but their soul will be ghosting you in real time. And they will disappear. Remember, they are your local loner - the outside contractor.