Protect Your Space™
This is for urgent situations.
The person as the authorised See You Next Tuesday.
Remember: Superior judgment trumps superior skills. See you here.
Treat the other person the way they want to be treated.
Eight Characteristics
1. Manipulation wrapped in kindness.
2. Gaslighting and reality distortion / doubt.
3. Pleasure in your suffering.
4. Chronic blame shifting.
5. Isolation as a control strategy.
6. Jealousy disguised ad advice.
7. Charm used as a weapon / bait.
8. An unrepenetent heart - never, ever wrong.
Back to top of pageMethod for Doddy™
1. Grey Rock them.
2. Use Firm Calmness™ - never lose your cool - stay in control.
3. Repeat ad nauseaum.
4. Realise that the See You Next Tuesday is corrosive.
5. Realise that emotional responses supress critical thinking.
Protect your space. Let truth stand on its own and realise that lies require constant support.
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Be very careful with what you are doing. If you do these things, there will be consequences. You have been warned! Narcissic traits = A See you next Tuesday.
1. Expose them – Show people who they really are.
2. Take away what they want – Do not give them the things they think they deserve.
3. Disrupt their life – Make it hard for them to keep things running as usual.
4. Refuse to give them your attention. This will make them feel unimportant and worried about losing your attention.
5. Starve them of empathy - Stop giving them your sympathy and kindness and they will not be able to manipulate your feelings.
6. Show strength and confidence - They will become jealous and insecure because they cannot control you.
7. Ignore them - They may become angry and try to get your attention through gifts or affection. Do not fall for this trick.
8. Set and enforce boundaries - There will be consequences for their actions and disrespect and this will make them respect your rules out of fear and make them think twice.
9. Say no - They dislike it as it feels like rejection and a loss of control.
10. Challenge them - They hate their lies and exaggerations exposed with evidence. This will make them realize that you are not easy to manipulate.
11. Hold them accountable - They hate questions and to give explanations. This will shatter their image of always being right. Watch their disgraceful attitude in a restaurant and the haughty way they (mis)treat the staff. We love this one and hold others to account daily.
12. Expose their narcissism - Never call them narcissistic but do call them out for their deceitful behaviour and manipulation. Show them evidence of their wrongdoings to make them feel ashamed and afraid of being exposed.
13. Take back control to regain control over your life and be assertive - This will make them fear losing their ability to manipulate and abuse you.
Doing any of these might cause a strong emotional reaction from them, from which they may or may not recover. You are prepared. Just add Firm Calmness™ at all times.
Understand the consequences of getting it wrong. If you try to hurt them, you are playing their game. They will strike back with revenge, manipulation and cruelty. Narcissists and those with exposed traits do not feel guilt, do not care about your feelings and only care about the control and attention you used to allow them to get away with. Love has nothing to do with their actions.
Back to top of pageWho was Doddy?
"Doddy" was my mother. The possessor of all the eight characteristics outlined on this page. Street angel and home devil, writ large. Inspired by her even worse sister who resided at 'South Burnley', Victoria, Australia. You know its name! Ouch! I have continued unhindered and not bothered by useless barking dogs on the way.
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