Treat by Pattern - Specific Treatment - Q3 JANE™
This page details specific items to watch out for.
Use these to tailor your approach as you know the other person's behaviour pattern.
This page is for - Q3 JANE™.
Remember: Superior judgment trumps superior skills. See you here.
Treat the other person the way they want to be treated.
Pattern 9 - Specialist - ISFP
Nick Off Nickname™: The Unpredictable Fool.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Self-destructive, escapist and codependent.
While Virtue is Diligence; Nota Bene: Vice is Idleness.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "Hell, I'm so unique and cool; unlike you."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The indecisive, oversensitive and emotionally unstable nothing who probably wants to be an influencer but is too shy or depressed to be one. The arty farty and sensitive fairy.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Can be flattering people but often used towards those they care about. De: Appeases with strong, but internal, resistance over outward submission.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because their distance can seem rude (but it is not).
Character: Irrational. Arty-farty. Either texts while driving or grandma driver.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to see beauty in the moment.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Fix my car".
At the airport, I complain about the long layover that I actually booked.
Dramatic Narrative™: Quiet, friendly, sensitive and kind. Enjoys the present moment and what is going on around them. Likes to have their own space and to work within their own time frame. Loyal and committed to their values and to people who are important to them. Dislikes disagreements and conflict. Does not force their opinions or values onto others.
Never do this - we know: They have their soul in your backpack, hoping you do not notice until you want them to. And they will immediately regret when you do. These are deeply feeling, intensely creative people but their creativity is personal, sacred and not for public dissection. They hate you critiquing their beautiful or ghastly painting. Do not do it. Do not public correct them as they will take it as if they have been excommunicated from the human race. Remember, they are your local artist - the fickle crackpot.
Pattern 10 - Investigator - INFJ
Nick Off Nickname™: The Stubborn Boob.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Extremely critical and fault finding.
While Virtue is Integrity; Nota Bene: Vice is Corruption.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "Wow, I'm such an interesting person. I need more friends. Oh, hello person! Do you want to hear how awesome I am?"
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The oddball with monotone, perfectionistic and ridiculous visions. Two faced in that extreme dislike of conflict can change to harmony over truth. The two faced.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Often amazing at flattering others as naturals at seeing the good in others. De: Appeases by compromise or yielding to avoid conflict.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they will doorslam others with no warning.
Character: Codependent. Thinks they can read you. SJW. Thinks random thoughts instead of concentrating on the road ahead. Have a longing for paradise lost.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to look beyond the obvious.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "I want to call you a hippie but you are more like Osama Bin Laden wearing a mask that looks like Gandhi".
At the airport, I practice stoic emotional regulation as the carousel goes around without my bag.
Dramatic Narrative™: Seeks meaning and connection in ideas, relationships and material possessions. Wants to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develops a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.
Never do this - we know: They are all about the long-game and taking time to reflect and ponder before They panic when put on the spot so avoid that. They do not live in the moment. They live about 87 fathoms beneath the moment, where meaning and symbolism are more important than what their limbs are currently doing. They need to prepare mentally, emotionally and spiritually or they will feel as if they are operating a human body on borrowed instructions and half a battery. They hate crying in front of people as that is mortifying and emotional reactions to criticism is utter betrayal. Avoid doing something awkward or cringy. Remember, they are your local special snowflake - the conspiracy theorist.
Pattern 11 - Agent - INFP
Nick Off Nickname™: The Waste of Space.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Self-righteous, passive-aggressive, sulking and resentful.
While Virtue is Loyalty; Nota Bene: Vice is Treachery.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "I will tell you about my opinion and ignore anything you say that is against it."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The thin-skinned, oversensitive, weakling. Lazy and a whiner. Constantly crying. The unemployable.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Do know how to flatter people which comes completely from the heart. De: Appeases with strong, but internal, resistance over outward submission.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they because occasionally they do not follow others' rules.
Character: Irrelevant. Never does anything. Whinger, writ large. SJW. May be a poet. Unemployable. Thinks random thoughts instead of concentrating on the road ahead.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to understand ourselves.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Telling me that I hurt your feelings will just make me deliberately hurt your feelings even more; it's pointless".
At the airport, I am the nervous flyer watching YouTube videos of the worst plain crashes.
Dramatic Narrative™: Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Wants to live a life that is congruent with their values. Curious, quick to see possibilities, can be catalysts for think up ideas but very poor at implementing them. Seeks to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential. Adaptable, flexible and accepting unless a value is threatened.
Never do this - we know: They are deeply emotional creatures wrapped in several layers of mystery and woolen Know that they hate being watched while feeling things. Do not put on surprise parties or do lavish gifts. Their embarrassment is not limited to themselves either. They are walking secondhand embarrassment generators. They feel other people’s shame as if it is piped in through their nervous system. Never critique their poem or short story. Remember, they are your local whiner - the miserable idealist.
Pattern 12 - Achiever - ISTP
Nick Off Nickname™: The Bad Tempered Jerk.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Cold, detached and unemotional.
While Virtue is Joy; Nota Bene: Vice is Melancholy.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "I am so unpredictable for it to even be described on this page."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The non-committal and arrogant daredevil who thinks they are clever and then ends up in the emergency room. Isolated loner. The fixer.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Does not like feeling forced to flatter but that does not mean that they will not be good at it. De: Less outwardly conforming but not necessarily dismissive.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they do not follow social norms.
Character: Apathetic. Fixes anything. Has bad temper. Speeds well over the limit.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to be creative with resources.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Your workmanship is poor".
At the airport, I am at the bar at 7am after an overnight flight.
Dramatic Narrative™: Tolerant and flexible, quiet observers until a problem appears and then acts quickly to find workable solutions. Analyzes what makes things work and readily gets through large amounts of data to isolate the core of practical problems. Interested in cause and effect, organizes facts using logical principles. Values efficiency.
Never do this - we know: They can keep a straight face during a zombie apocalypse, never ask them to talk about their feelings. They have them but not to share with you so do not ask them. They will never cry in public and do not appreciate others doing it. So be aware of that. They cringe inside if a loved one does something stupid. Remember, they are your local tradie - the psycho vigilante.