Treat by Pattern - Specific Treatment - Q2 CATHY™
This page details specific items to watch out for.
Use these to tailor your approach as you know the other person's behaviour pattern.
This page is for - Q2 CATHY™.
Remember: Superior judgment trumps superior skills. See you here.
Treat the other person the way they want to be treated.
Pattern 5 - Persuader - ENFJ
Nick Off Nickname™: The Manipulative Motherfcuker.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Domineering and manipulating.
While Virtue is Benevolence; Nota Bene: Vice is Cruelty.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "Oh, this person is perfect for my evil schemes. I shall charm them into thinking we are friends and keep them for future purposes. They will not see it coming. I SHALL RULE THE WORLD."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The narcissistic and manipulative cult leader. Add fake and interfering (nosey parker). The liar.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Extremely flattering with a knack for reading those around them. De: Appeases by compromise or yielding to avoid conflict.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they thought you were rude first.
Character: Manipulative. Used car salesman. SJW. Liar. The astroturfer. Texts while driving.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to see others' potential.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "You are not the cult leader 2.0 that you think you are".
At the airport, I want to take my cat on the aircraft for emotional support.
Dramatic Narrative™: Warm, empathetic, responsive and sometimes responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs and motivations of others. Finds potential in everyone and wants to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and hates criticism. Sociable, facilitates others in a group and thinks that they provide inspiring leadership.
Never do this - we know: They are social protagonists. They can read a room, comfort a stranger and empathically sense what is bothering you and you are not telling anyone else. Watch out when they mess up socially, say the wrong thing, offend someone accidentally or reveal a secret they did not know was a secret. That will cause immediate inner collapse. Maybe that is what you want. Or is it? And criticism - giving or receiving is nightmare fuel. They hate letting people down almost as much as they hate being seen as the person who is making someone feel bad. Then they second-guess everything. They think that they can build a hen out of a feather. Remember, they are your local liar - the cult leader.
Pattern 6 - Appraiser - ESFJ
Nick Off Nickname™: The Gossipping Prick.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Smothering, overprotective and controlling.
While Virtue is Care-giving; Nota Bene: Vice is Care-taking.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "Keep talking, person. The more secrets you share, the more I can use against you."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The annoying soccer mum with need for validation. Needs everyone to like them. The friend to all.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Natural flatterers who enjoy being able to make others feel good about themselves. De: Appeases by compromise or yielding to avoid conflict.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude when others are not ‘their sort of person’.
Character: Sheep. Everyone's friend. "Whatever". Texts while driving or a back seat driver.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to be the caretaker for others.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Stop calling everyone 'bro'".
At the airport, I randomly contemplate varieties of food.
Dramatic Narrative™: Warmhearted, conscientious and cooperative. Wants harmony in their environment and works with determination to establish it. Likes to work with others to complete tasks accurately and on time. Loyal and follows through even in small matters. Notices what others need in their day-to-day lives and tries to provide it. Wants to be appreciated for who they are and for what they contribute.
Never do this - we know: They are always taking the pulse of how everyone else is feeling and adjusting accordingly. So do not say "Just be brutally honest" as their soul will physically recoil. Be careful of then giving criticism as it will be wrapped in a warm hug, sandwiched between seventeen compliments and followed by a casserole. Their shame spiral starts when you cause them to lose contro. Avoid that. Stress can transform them from a warm, generous friend to a passive-aggressive rottweiler. Remember, they are your local best friend - the smothering control freak.
Pattern 7 - Promoter - ENFP
Nick Off Nickname™: The Unreliable Yo-Yo.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Impulsive and reckless.
While Virtue is Charity; Nota Bene: Vice is Depravity.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "Oh God no; you are wrong while I am correct. Let me provide a 500 word essay of how I am correct, whether you want to listen or not." [But they will never get around to do it].
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The nauseating, overthinking, chatterbox on a group project. Their brains are full of fluff and rainbows. The unreliable.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Very charming so flattery is often one of their many talents. De: Appeases with strong, but internal, resistance over outward submission.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because others are boring them.
Character: Fleeting. Unreliable. Disorganised. Does not finish. Late. SJW. Never lend them anything, ever. Either thinks random thoughts instead of concentrating on the road ahead or texts while driving.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to trust imagination.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "Unicorns do not exist".
At the airport, I have three minutes to get to the gate.
Dramatic Narrative™: Warmly enthusiastic and imaginative. Sees life as full of possibilities. Makes connections between events and information very quickly. Confidently proceeds based on the patterns they see. Wants a humungous lot of affirmation from others and readily gives appreciation and support. Spontaneous and flexible. Often relies on their ability to improvise and their verbal fluency.
Never do this - we know: They are wildly passionate, wildly enthusiastic and, occasionally, wildly mortified by the things they said at last night’s party. Sometimes they get so swept up in the excitement of sharing an idea, a theory or a life-changing epiphany that they forget to fact-check all the nitty-gritty details. Watch out when you challenge them on facts. Their cheeks go hot, their soul briefly implodes and they consider moving to another country under a new name. They can be a handful - they live big, feel big, speak big and that means occasionally crashing into moments of social shame. Remember, they are your local unreliable character - the scattered scientologist.
Pattern 8 - Counselor - ESFP
Nick Off Nickname™: The Helter - Skelter Cocky Cock.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 1: Shallow, materialistic and attention-seeking.
While Virtue is Delayed Gratification; Nota Bene: Vice is Instant Gratification.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 2: "I make offensive jokes because seeing my enemies so upset makes me feel stronger."
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 3: The impulsive and vacuous imbecile. Always wants to be the centre of attention. The show pony.
Get rid of Compelling Reasons™ 4. Donor and Donee of Arslikhan™: Dr: Outgoing and social who often enjoys being able to flatter others. De: Appeases with strong, but internal, resistance over outward submission.
Rue de Remarques™: Totally rude because they want to be the centre of attention.
Character: Selfish. Difficult to manage. Either accidentally will try to race an undercover cop or texts while driving.
Inbuilt Wisdom™: How to lighten up.
Piss Off Guarantee™ - say: "You do not have the narcissistic, womanizing yet unintelligent persona".
At the airport, I am the last minute merchant getting there as I do not like waiting around.
Dramatic Narrative™: Outgoing, friendly and accepting. Exuberant lovers of life, people and material comforts. Enjoys working with others to make things happen. Brings common sense and a realistic approach to their work and makes work fun. Flexible and spontaneous, adapts readily to new people and environments. Learns best by trying a new skill with other people.
Never do this - we know: They are constantly scanning the room ways to make life more colorful, fun and connected. Watch out if the party energy does not land, a joke fails or a plan is ignored. Do not meet them with apathy or be that condescending person who treats their joy like a character flaw. Do not forget that there is depth behind the charm. They care. A lot. About people, about experiences about making life mean something. Do not mock that. Remember, they are your local centre of attention - the national enquirer headline.